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Parenting Through Development Transitions
It’s amazing how good people are at raising kids who are at a certain stage, but struggle once a new developmental transition is reached. One parent who is great with infant routines and toddler’s...
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Getting Back Up After a Breakup
Sometimes you feel like diving into a deep, dark hole after a breakup. You feel you’ll never meet anyone again, and actually, you have no desire to meet someone. You just feel pretty much done. The...
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Parenting Differently: You Don’t Have to Be Your Father
I meet a lot of dads or soon to be dads who are very worried they don’t have what it takes to be a “good father” because their dad wasn’t one. They’re not sure how to start parenting differently from...
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Having a Feeling Before the Intellect Intervenes
We’re smart people. We are rational beings and when the worst is thrown at us our minds try to “figure it out” to “problem solve” and all that good stuff. Getting in touch with feelings seems to be in...
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How to Take a Break
I love taking breaks. Well, I say that but then I’m in the midst of a blog post or in the middle of something interesting and it just seems that time flies by and I’ll take a break in five more...
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Feel Like You’re Defective in Relationships?
Think you’re defective in relationships? Well, it’s easy to get to feeling that way. With all the ghosting people do—maybe even you’ve done–with the unwanted stuff that even the best relationship...
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Our Parents Don’t Need Our Emotional Protection
Many of us owe a lot to our flawed fathers and struggle with having adult anger at parents. A large portion of the men I work with point to their father’s resilience, sacrifice, work ethic, and...
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Archie Andrews, Toxic Masculinity and Me
I was a big fan of the Archie comics when I was a kid. I don’t know, maybe it was the red hair, the small town, Pop’s Chok’lit Shoppe? Probably, as a young red-headed kid, I could vicariously enjoy...
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Avoid Avoiding Loneliness
To some people, loneliness is equal to death. Being lonely brings up dire feelings of fear that we jump through horrible hoops to avoid. There are many people who can’t spend a night alone in their...
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Passive-Aggressive Parenting
Passive-aggressiveness in itself is an interesting concept, but passive-aggressive parenting takes it to a whole new level. With your basic passive-aggressiveness, you have the following parts that...
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5 Ways to Tell Whether You Are Ready to Take the Leap
There are people whose confidence is directly in line with their actions. There are also people who have lots of confidence but lack the required skills for the things they do. This can get dangerous...
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Want to Be a Better Man? Build Your Self-Compassion
I came across a great quote the other day by the therapist Terrence Real: There is no redeeming value in harshness. And this got me thinking about compassion, particularly the all too rare...
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Decrease Your Chronic Pain Using Psychology
If you are dealing with a chronic sickness or acute disability you may think there’s nothing you can do to make yourself feel better or decrease your pain. “Whatever happens,” the thought goes, “I’m...
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We Don’t Talk Enough About Money and Therapy
Therapy is a place where a lot gets talked about, but money and therapy together often gets avoided. We bravely dive into: Trauma Abuse Shame Sex Addiction We spend the hour talking about all the...
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3 Things to Look at if Your Relationship Feels Smothered
Relationships can be great and many people put a lot of work and effort into finding that certain someone. Once you’re in a relationship—especially if you’ve spent a good deal of time single—you may be...
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We Don’t Talk Enough About Money and Therapy Part 2
In my last post I spoke about how therapists and clients don’t talk often enough about money and therapy, particularly within the therapy and how money is a dynamic between the client and therapist....
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Can There Be Good Anxiety?
Anxiety is one of those things that a lot of people talk about, but few have a full understanding of what anxiety is. Anxiety can be likened to depression. And like depression, anxiety can be...
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Anxiety and the Illusion of Control
Controlling behaviors can be an attempt to not feel anxious. We’re better off allowing ourselves to feel anxious because control and anxiety don’t go so well together. When many of us get anxious our...
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5 Ways to Feel Anxiety (In Order to Get Rid of It)
While anxiety may, in theory, sound better than depression, it’s just as debilitating. Men are more apt to say they have anxiety than depression–perhaps it sounds less emasculating? The names for these...
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Regrets Without Shame
I was recently talking with someone who said she and a friend had made a promise when they were younger that they would live life with “no regrets.” We spoke more about what that meant. It meant...
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